Gender '='lity

I was at ICG 07, St Anne Penang and there they had a session on gender equality.
It was humorous to me when this workshop was conducted. Boys and gals were splitted separately and then divided into smaller groups. Now each group was to list down the characteristics/qualities of a women/man that they would like to see, conveniently husbandslah. First at the beginning of this session the women were blasting the men about what ladies could do. Basically women can do what man can. The guys were quiet. The women broke the gender curtain in the discussion and the men lost. But now back to the workshop the women in the end listed down the qualities of men genderly defined for them and of cos the men happily listed down the gender defined characteristics of a lady. So ladies if u can do what man can do then why need them?? The fight for gender equality is actually supposed to be like the fight against discrimination.....read on....

Why r we fighting for gender equality?? Or may i say, what do we expect from from gender equality?? The way it is going it is like man n woman are swapping roles in society. Is it right? What we should be thinking is how far we should fight for gender equality. Of course equality should be practiced but our basic human fundamental role must not be forgotten. Why is there man and woman in this world then? Why did God create us such away? There must be a reason. If we r to be equal then why do we have opposites? It is to complement each other's role that is why there are opposites. Do you know the Ying n Yang - that explains it all. Even in the yin n yang the white area has a define black spot and the black area has a define white spot. Is there gray(equal amount of black n white)? So how far is the equality going too? The equality we should be fighting for is the equality man made and not god made. Fundamental gender arises as the manifestation of the biological sex capability and function. So we cant run away from gender issues or in away tag the usage of the term gender to be insensitive to the opposite sex. In a relationship between peoples there needs to be complementation's and equality to express that complements. What build us Humans? DNA - Do u know that DNA strands are not equal but 2 complementary stands but it needs to be equally divided to produce the next generation of cells. A complementary relationship provides room for growth so we can make better, make richer and grow in love in the relationship. When we are equal, what is there to grow? We are placed in this world to grow not stop and be equal. Even the division of DNA is know as semi-conservative division where 1 complement pair strand divides and form 2 single strands which is completed by formation of a new strand finally forming 2 new pairs. (replication process). As one may read this they will still be strong on the equality so here now i put it simple. A man does what a man does - everyone already knows what he does.(role wise). The woman can do anything she wants, even get a phd - no problem but their role as a Mother, Wife and binder of a family should not be forgotten. If the person says here the woman is more superior then the man so the man should take care of the family. Where is equality? Now it is superiority and inferiority matter. Know u see it looks like equality is gender biased itself more towards women. Contradiction! Can u achieve total equality in this gender issue? NO! Go back to ICG during the talk about gender equality. The participants were asked to differentiate between gender and sex. Then questions were posted so to make us aware of the gender issues which is not equal. It was said the man can also do what is usually gender define a woman should do. The woman can do what the man can do. Later what we were asked to do is to list out the qualities one would want in a husband or wife. Hahaha. It was all gender qualities! The girls wanted a husband genderly defined and the guys wanted a wife genderly defined. If what a man or woman can do what the opposite sex does then??? So yes there are dads who play the motherly role but how many? What is the proportion? Can be said insignificant. Exceptions are always there. Aren't we living in an imperfect world?? Women being a complement to man is already equal.

" Woman was created from the rib of man, not from his head to top him, neither from his feet to be walked upon. She was made from his side to be his equal, from beneath his arms to be protected by him, and from very near his heart to be loved by him." (author unknown)