Help or Not to Help.

yup it is a stupid question. Of cos we must help.
But today's world arr.. not as good as those days i believe.
There are more sohais around, insecure people, backstabbers,
fakers and what not.

These people may come to you for help and u may help them.
Of cos although u do not and should not accept or aspect anything in return
but what if when u need help they, don't help u back or what if they don't treat u well later?? Should u continue to help them when they ask which they will eventually?? Do you still have the heart to help them.

I have a 'friend' who once asked me for my presentation. She wanted to see how i did mine. Do u know how she asked me? "Eh Greg - was ur presentation on iron deficiency accepted by Prof Win?" (ans was a yes) Read that line again.... what does it tell u?
What if my presentation was not good would she still accept it and take a look or will she not? If she does not would that not insult me indirectly maybe directly. Yes one can argue saying that whats the point of looking at a bad presentation?? But to me, is that how u ask? where is ur manners and due respect for the one who u need help from? Furthermore wouldn't a bad presentation serve u to make a better presentation?? Anyway i did send her my presentation with a heavy heart.

Then there are irresponsible people - they will by all means try to find a book (example) and also who it belongs to and borrow it then dun return till the owner will have to go and like beg for it back? sucks right?
I wonder to these people ever think? Ever wonder if they would like it if sum1 does the same back to them? Probably the wont that's the ever shittier part.

So now help or don't? God said that He would help those who help themselves. Not to go against it because i still feel that we should help those who help themselves but arnt all those sohais out there ARE helping themselves by asking for help? How do we know if they are sincere or not or not cheating u? Its hard also hard to say No especially if u are a nice person.
Well a person who helps themselves must be sincere and humble in heartlah that is the catch behind that phrase i guess. So if u think they are being selfish should u still continue to help them? yes u are doing a good deed but at the same time u are being taken for a ride and as a joke.

I think we should not help. (:-O). Now i feel bad writing that but i feel we need to take care of our pride and dignity from those who are threatening it. No point helping a guy who cheats or is selfish. You are just doing the Devil a favor. Talk about how the Devil works. He does bad in the disguise of goodness and that is where people get trapped and confused and makes the gray area grow wider and wider when it only supposed to be a thin line. Grey areas also give a wide range of excuses for people to escape their wrong doings.

Now here comes a weird part - irony. U help some one you are made a fool off and laughed at. U dont help you are tainted as a selfish person and mocked at. So do u want to be laughed at or mocked at? haha No people is there ANY GooD now in helping?
Some might say dont bother just help - true yes many good people were mocked at when they did good - the saints and all even Jesus himself.

Put out a question for urself. Can u take the mocking like how they did. U wanna become a saint or trying to be one? U know now if u constantly be bullied around, u are going to be in a loosing end, loosing out to those sohais (:-D). Others who dont know you well, and bad, if they are those in the top post and ur future is like depends on them, wud have the tendency not to prefer u too.
Yes one can argue that good will prevail but in the mean time u have lost the opportunity and now due to that u would need to work harder to get another. comes another question is it fair??. When u r helping others are u helping urself? Should u help urself?

So when u help some one. How do you help? What is the intention of the 'friend' wanting ur help in ur mind (u maybe wrong and that might make a prob for ur friend - which i wud say oopps?!?!. Even this act can shun away authentic good people asking for help sadly - r u wrong now or not?) How much do you help?

Uhmp! doing a good deed is not as easy as it seems eh...no wonder all do bad haha..

Anging tak mengenang budi (transalated tamil proverb)
God will help those who help themselves
Good will prevail all evil
(some sayings to share related to this topic)