To beautiful and strong words which carry lots of meaning and effect to the person saying it and also the person who receives it.
These words when used with sincerity and honesty will leave positive impact on each party.
When u say sorry, for it to be meaningful you would have to forgive yourself 1st and try not to do it again. If it is done again then the sorry u said for the last time would not hold water already. More over if u keep on repeating that wrong then your sorry can be thrown out to the drain.
Now the word sorry when used properly can closen the gap of distance created in any bad situation. Close enough to forgive and become better friends. To actually say a correct sorry is difficult because u would have to come out clean and naked of your worng, humbled with humility to accept ones mistake openly. When it is accepted the person who forgives gets credit of being a humbled person himself and the person who says it would rise victorious in persona.
Now the catch is that when u have strip down naked u r vulnerable for attack and mocking and humiliation. At this time u can also be 'killed' if not by the person who you have wronged but from those around. Evil would continuously rake that mistake of your trying to bring u down as far a possible till u have lost all respect and dignity.
In fear of this people would not want to say sorry sincerely anymore moreover even say it. To prevent this also one would need to build up ego and ego distances people in a relationship. Furthermore those vultures prying on you for the sake of covering up their own low self esteem and wrong popularizes yours. Fearing this too people would not want to say sorry. So how now to say sorry in today's world filled with vultures. Dont you want to protect yourself?
Well rightfully you still must say sorry despite if u will be forgiven or killed as long you have forgiven yourself and also learned from the mistake.
Now here is another road. People say sorry just to clear things just because that word and melt a person. People fake their sincerity when they say it and the person wronged is made more into a fool if he does not realize it. So for such people should they be forgiven pula?? You would be taken for granted, made a joke off and what not. Such people also spoil this word just to get away with their wrong. Irony - supposed when some one says i m sorry one actually has gotten their punishment (coming 'naked') but here they actually get away from it haha. shit!!
Lets look at another road. If you don't forgive them wow! they will scold you for it! imagine that - already have been wronged now have to bow down to their sorry!! haha...weird...when they said sorry did they really mean it then?? If you dont forgive you are the bad guy now and they would get away with their mistakes. phew!!
This pushes you to the corner now where u need to decide if you want to stay alive...cool eh people nowadays. Some people dont care if you forgive them or not they would simply brush a sorry to you and walk away doing the same thing over and over again.
Remember history repeats itself and people will never learn. (Few do)
Sorry taken for granted.
What are we to do now?? If you give in you are condoning their action if you dont then u are bad. what to do? Still forgive and leave it to God. You have done your part. You at least should learn. Its difficult and different situation warrants different action.
The word thank you is not is the vocabulary of younger generation people already. Its mere thanks to satisfy the giver. I have fetched young and old people around. The old one say thank you to me the younger ones dont even in front of their own elders. How much thank you have you said how much have u received if u have given in the 1st place haha?? Many if not some dont even say thank you when it matter most for when u say thank you the same way u have said sorry u have become stripped naked, humbled to the giver. U sincerely appreciate the giver and remember the giver of the right they have done to you. People nowadays dont for if they remember they wud feel naked and lower then you - ego. They would prefer to feel that they have achieved something despite getting help all by themselves. If they dont they they fear people will think that they are weak and need help to achieve something. What adds to this problem is that that there are people who also think that way too.
Thank you and sorry are 2 great humble words and should be thought well to the younger generation. Dont fear the ugly world do what is right insyah Allah God will reward you but u will have to be patient for that reward too. (also don't be wanting for that reward - let not the right hand know what the left hand did). We life in a vicious cycle of fear in our lives. Fear begets fear. Let us not fear anymore and do GOOD not go kill around or screw around too haha. Do GOOD for a beautiful cycle will be what we want to live in.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
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